Building Wise Friendships (Proverbs 18:24)
This sermon explores the profound value and diligent effort required to cultivate genuine, loyal friendships. It delves into the biblical perspective on why these deep connections are essential for human flourishing and spiritual growth.
True friendships are rare and require intentional effort, sacrificial love, and openness. Ultimately, the most satisfying and eternal friendship is found in Jesus Christ, who fills every heart's void.
Overview
The sermon contrasts casual friendships with genuine, loyal ones, emphasizing that true friends are a valuable asset that must be built, not simply found. God Himself established the need for companionship, beginning with Adam and Eve, and demonstrated it through His relationships with biblical figures like Abraham, Moses, David, and Paul.
Dr. Stanley explores Proverbs 18:24, explaining that having "too many friends" can lead to ruin if those friendships are broad but not deep, leaving one unsupported in times of crisis. In contrast, a true friend "sticks closer than a blood brother," providing steadfast loyalty through all difficulties.
Building wise friendships requires several key commitments: sharing deep mutual concerns, focusing on meeting others' needs rather than one's own, and being willing to risk rejection and pain. It also involves loving sacrificially, practicing openness and transparency, and allowing the principles of scripture to govern the relationship.
The sermon culminates by highlighting the most important friendship: with Jesus Christ. He desires a personal, intimate connection with each individual, a relationship built on His unconditional love and eternal plan, which can satisfy the deepest longing of the human heart.
Key points
- Genuine friendships are distinct from casual ones, requiring time and intentional effort to cultivate.
- God designed humanity for relationships, a need evident from Adam and Eve to numerous biblical figures who had close companions.
- Proverbs 18:24 warns that superficial "friends" can lead to ruin, contrasting them with a loyal friend who remains steadfast.
- Building wise friendships means prioritizing mutual concern, giving rather than needing, risking hurt, loving sacrificially, and being transparent.
- All wise friendships should be governed by the principles of scripture, guiding words, reactions, and conduct.
- The most crucial and eternally satisfying friendship is with Jesus Christ, whose unconditional love fills the empty spaces in our hearts.
In Charles Stanley's words
“They're not found, they're built, and the quality of the material we place in that friendship will determine how long it lasts and how satisfying it is.”
“It's worth the pain and rejection to feel loved and anchored by a genuine, true, loving, devoted, loyal friend.”
“No man will ever be able to meet all of any woman's needs. No woman can meet all of any man's needs, because only Jesus can do that.”
Outline
- I. The Nature and Value of True Friendships
- A. Distinguishing true friends from casual acquaintances
- B. God's design for human relationships (Genesis)
- C. Biblical examples of friendship (Abraham, Moses, David, Daniel, Jesus, Paul)
- D. The asset of loyal, devoted friends
- II. Building Wise Friendships (Proverbs 18:24)
- A. Understanding "a man of too many friends comes to ruin"
- B. The friend who "sticks closer than a blood brother"
- III. Requirements for Building Wise Friendships
- A. Sharing a deep mutual concern
- B. Basing friendship on meeting their needs, not one's own neediness
- C. Willingness to risk rejection and pain
- D. Loving sacrificially
- E. Being open and transparent
- F. Allowing principles of scripture to govern the relationship
- IV. The Most Important Friendship: With Jesus Christ
- A. Jesus desires friendship with us (John 15:15)
- B. His sovereign power draws us into oneness
- C. A relationship built on His unconditional love, forgiveness, and eternal plan
- D. The ultimate friend who fills the heart's gap
Scripture references
24 A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.
15 Henceforth I call you not servants; for the servant knoweth not what his lord doeth: but I have called you friends; for all things that I have heard of my Father I have made known unto you.
Insights
True friendship is not found but intentionally built over time.
God's design for humanity includes companionship and deep relationships.
Genuine connection requires a willingness to navigate hurt and pain.
Questions & answers
What distinguishes true friendships from casual ones?
True friendships are loyal, devoted, and genuine, requiring time and effort to build, unlike casual ones which come quickly and are numerous.
Why does the sermon say "a man of too many friends comes to ruin" (Proverbs 18:24)?
It means having many broad but shallow friendships leaves one without a true anchoring friend when difficulties arise, causing one to fall apart.
What does it mean to build friendships based on meeting others' needs, not one's own?
It means approaching friendships from a place of sufficiency in Christ, seeking to contribute to the other person's life rather than seeking to fill one's own emotional or material needs.
Why is willingness to risk rejection and pain important in wise friendships?
Because all humans are imperfect, hurt and misunderstanding are inevitable. True friendships are worth the pain and rejection for the love and anchoring they provide.
How does sacrificial love apply to building friendships?
Sacrificial love means putting the other person first, giving without expecting return, laying down one's own wants, and not always needing to have one's own way.
What is the most important friendship discussed in the sermon?
The sermon emphasizes the friendship with Jesus Christ as the most important, an eternal relationship built on His unconditional love, forgiveness, and eternal plan.
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